How do I get this kitten's inner tiger to come out and play?
January 1, 2010 2:24 PM Subscribe
The lady I'm seeing is really shy in bed. What can I do to help her feel more comfortable?
posted by anonymous to human relations (20 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a guy. Things have only recently gotten physical between us. I was a little surprised (and a little charmed, but then she charms me pretty easily) to find that she's very shy in bed.
She told me as much, and said that I'll "have to be patient with" her. She says that part of it is self-consciousness about her body (which is gorgeous, and I've assured her of this), and part of it is because she hasn't had sex in a long time and feels like she doesn't "know what [she's] doing". She's not particularly shy outside of bed, and I don't think she's inexperienced. (She's probably more experienced than me, actually.)
She's volunteered, a couple of times, that she really trusts me. And judging from her response when I've pursued her enjoyment, she's getting sufficiently turned on. She's just really shy about me seeing her body, and about doing stuff to me.
I want to be an awesome guy here, and make our sexytime fun and comfortable and happy. And eventually, of course, I'd like her to feel comfortable enough with me to have some crazy, mutually awesome, upside-down monkey sex.
How do I do this? I have some ideas, but I want to hear what the shy lovers out there (and the people who love them) have to say on the matter.