Chat in Relationships?
December 21, 2009 6:56 PM Subscribe
How do you deal with instant messaging early in a relationship?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (18 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've just started dating a woman that I've known for a about a year. We both use GChat and tend to be logged in fairly frequently.
Given that it's early in the relationship, it seems overbearing to be communicating every day. Email is just as instant (in our age of BlackBerries at least), but a chat program has a "presence" that makes it seem weird to be logged on all the time without saying anything.
So far I've dealt with this in part by not being logged in so much, but also this change in behavior (and she knows how much I was logged in before) seems odd. How have you dealt with this?
Other details that might matter: it's long distance, so we don't see each other that frequently, so far it's been visit once a month, talk on the phone a little more frequently than once a week, e-mail and chat more in between.