Can some of you amazing Internet security people explain to me how cautious I need to be about what I do online? Is there a way to explore ideas online that are ideas you'd normally keep private? Or -- do I perhaps not need to worry about this, given the way opposition research and government confirmations actually work?
I'm at a phase of life where I'm really wanting to figure out my sexual side a bit more, and I wouldn't mind figuring that out -- like anything else -- by reading things online, asking (anonymous) questions on Metafilter, finding specialty chat boards, and so forth.
But, you always hear
people advise that you behave on the Internet as though it will one day end up completely public. I don't want this to sink my confirmation in 2024 or end up in my grandmother's inbox. I occasionally do volunteer for minor roles in political campaigns, and if I move to higher-level campaigns in 20 years, I don't want this thrown at me. I don't expect anyone is trying to "watch" me now, just that there's a tiny chance that one day, I'll end up in a sufficiently public or controversial position that someone might try to dig up a little dirt.
Is there a way to explore some of these ideas online without something becoming public? I feel paranoid about even reading HTML on my iPhone or my home computer. Is that worth worrying about? I'm clueless here. Is there anything I can safely do? General guidelines on what I should do and shouldn't do would be appreciated. The Metatalk threads make it pretty clear that
anonymous Metafilter questions are pretty risky, yes? (What is a "server log"?) What about creating a totally fake identity connected to an unidentifiable email at some other chat board site -- are some even more anonymous? I'm assuming someone with limitless resources could find out anything, but are there different degrees of safety? Thank you.
I hope this does not come off like a MetaTalk question. I think the MetaTalk issues have already been discussed in the linked thread. The question I'm asking is "what can I do," not "what should Metafilter be doing?" Thanks again. Also, I realize this is a long-shot worry, but I'm inherently cautious.
And at the end of the day, all we know is that a person with your PayPal address and your IP address [the number attached to your computer when you're browsing the web, rarely uniquely able to pin down your particular computer without someone going to your internet service provider with a search warrant] and your username asked that question. We have users here with no paypal on file [maybe they're old time users or they sent me $5 in lieu of using PayPal] and a disposable email address, connecting with IP addresses that have been anonymized. So, in the absence of law enforcement showing up and saying "Who asked this question?" [which there's a good chance we couldn't do anyhow, and we don't approve questions that would be likely to lead to that scenario anyhow] your secrets are safe here.
That said, the easiest way to maintain pivacy is to keep private things more or less private but also not to care about some stuff. That is, if you smoked pot in high school, that's more of a problem if you're super-secretive about it, than if you're like "yeah I did that, i don't anymore, can we move on please?" the same with sex stuff, same with drugs and other stuff like that. If you read the questions about getting security clearances, the bigger deal is "how could you be blackmailed?" not "did you ever do a bad thing."
So take some care to have a consistent not-you identity. Never link it to your real-you identity [which also has a presence on the web] and try to lead a decent enough life that "dirt" isn't really dirt [i.e. you've made your peace with the things you've done] and that the good way outweighs the bad. People can dig up some shit on me if they want to, I've definitely talked some about my personal life here on AskMe, but they'd have to wade through 3000+ other comments to get to that point. In most cases, this sort of thing is not worth the effort.
posted by jessamyn at 4:55 PM on December 12, 2009 [2 favorites]