December 1, 2009 9:21 AM Subscribe
I've just found out that the child I'm having is a girl. I think being a girl sucks.
posted by anonymous to human relations (94 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
I feel awful and guilty and terrible, but I kind of don't want to have this kid anymore.
The thing is, I hate being a girl: I hate the wage gaps, the body image issues, passive sexism, the fear of aging, the potential for sexual assault - everything social about carrying two X chromosomes, actually. And since I've struggled with wage gaps, body image issues, passive sexism, the fear of aging and sexual assault, I don't know how I can raise a girl without instilling fears about these same things.
Since all of the above are real problems, I can't see how to lie to her that life is grand and just as easy as it would have been were she a boy.
I have seen this on AskMe http://ask.metafilter.com/94776/Baby-Daughter-Daddy, but the situation is different - I don't want a girl because I feel like life will be harder and worse for her than it would have been for a son.
How on earth do I go back to wanting this child again? Everyone else is celebrating and I feel miserable.