They want me to nag. I don't want to
November 30, 2009 11:28 AM Subscribe
Have you succeeded in losing (and keeping off) a lot of weight? Were you in a relationship at the time? Great! What did your partner do to help?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (25 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I don't intend for this to be relationship filter. My partner has gained, then lost about 30 pounds in the past, then put on another 50. I love them, and am in it for the long haul, but the only thing that they themselves say works coming from me is guilt and nagging, and I hate doing that. I hate how it sounds/feels, and I really don't like what taking that posture does to us.
In the past, we've tried working out together, meal planning, calorie counting, etc., and sometimes it works, but the only real weight loss came before an event where my partner didn't want to be seen at that size. They described it as the fear of shame from external sources.
Basically, is there a way I can help without going negative? Cause, the positive route hasn't ever helped in the past. I'd live and let live, but we're now running up against real health issues, and I want my partner and I to continue to live happily ever after. Thanks in advance, AskMe.