No time for each other
November 10, 2009 6:51 PM Subscribe
I'm in a relationship of a few months old with a wonderful girl. We have great times together, but there's the catch. We're hardly together. How can we change that, or work around it?
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We met when we were both doing part time work whilst looking for full time work. So we got to spend a lot of time together and it was awesome. Since then however, we've both found jobs that really don't mix time-wise. She works 4 days a week 9-5, but then almost every evening she does volunteer coaching at a local gym. She's done this for years and its her passion, so I won't ask her to give it up.
I now work a full week, including on her day off. Weekends are more sporadic; we both have commitments elsewhere but occasionally some free time will coincide.
Our work lives are pretty hectic, and we both get tired easily, so even though we live really quite close to each other, we're often too tired to do anything together, or if we are together, but tired, we're cranky and get on each other's nerves.
So, from seeing each other almost every couple of days for some quality time together, its gone down to an evening or two a fortnight. We still talk, text each other often, but I miss her when she's not around!
The crux is: We want to be able to see each other as much as is possible. But is this possible?
Is this normal? Do other couples have a similar situation, and what do they do to work around it?
What can we do in the short time we have available, apart from the obvious?
Is there anything we can do to make up free time?
And any other suggestions or advice would be much appreciated.
Throwaway email just in case it's needed: firstname.lastname@example.org
And I'm a guy fwiw. Both mid 20s. UK.