How do I find a boyfriend?
November 5, 2009 5:56 AM Subscribe
I'm a young, "straight-acting", alternative guy who is tired of being single. Help me find a boyfriend!
posted by mosherdan to human relations (23 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
First of all... I'm 23 and live in the North East of England. I've had a modest number of sexual partners, and only one short-term relationship.
Maybe because of the way I act and dress, and the places I hang out no-one suspects that I'm gay, and it seems to be ruining my chances of finding love. I'm quite well build (probably need to loose a few lbs), have piercings, dyed hair and mainly wear band t-shirts and jeans.
Some of my friends were quite shocked when they found out, or I told them I was gay; mainly due to the fact I'm not particularly camp and I hang around the metal music "scene" (bands/clubs/etc.)
I'm not particularly into the gay scene, although I have previously been to a few gay bars, just as part of a regular pub crawl with friends. I'm also not really into camp queeny gay guys and generally don't really like the promiscuity and bitchyness. I don't want to have to change myself or my social habits in order to find someone.
I'm on various gay and regular dating sites and have made a couple of online friends, but it seems most people are just after a quickie and nothing more.
My main question is: Is there a way I can subtly let people know that I'm gay while hanging around my usual social venues? I'm not a very confident person and not really the type to walk up to strangers and enquire about their sexuality, I also think my gaydar has been defective since birth ;)
Hive mind, help me find love (or a close approximation!) :D