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October 16, 2009 10:22 AM Subscribe
What is the best way to get my mom a kitten? Obviously, it's not quite that simple. Warning, overly long description of a ridiculous problem ahead.
posted by cgg to pets & animals (22 answers total)
My mom has a cat. A spayed female 7 year old calico cat that's scared of everything thats not my mom or dad (and even then, its sorta of hit and miss). She's not affectionate, won't cuddle, runs away from spiders and other neighborhood cats, and is generally a little neurotic. This cat used to be mine, but my parents took her in when I moved, and then, oddly enough, didn't want to give her back. My mom adores this cat, and all her quirks. Thats not the problem.
However, my mom is getting older, is a total cat person, and is worried this will be her "last cat". Given our family history with cats longevity, this one's probably got at least another decade in her. Trouble is, my mom really, really wants a cat that is affectionate and cuddly and all that good stuff some cats have to offer. But she refuses to do anything at all that might upset her current cat. Her exact words are "I would rather put her down than upset her safe haven that is my house". I think this is completely ridiculous, complete insanity, and that if my mom got a little cuddly kitten, there is no way this older cat could have any problems with it is they were introduced properly. Worst case they might never be best cat friends, but it certainly wouldn't be a quality of life issue. Certainly nothing worth putting a cat down! Jeezus! When I think of all the homeless cats out there and how many are put down, this gets me *so* angry.
If you go through my posting history, you'll notice I recently fostered a resuced momma cat and her litter. I wanted my mom to have one of these kittens, and she probably would have taken one -- if the entire litter hadn't been black cats. My mom has an irrational superstitious fear of black cats. However, 8 months later, she's actually asked me to bring one of my "kittens" over. Unfortunately, they're not kittens anymore, and are definitely the kind of cat that would harrass my mom's current cat. So that's not an option. My cats would be okay with it (new playmate!) -- my mom's cat, not so much.
So -- how to I solve this? This is partially due to guilt on my part; I feel bad that my parents got my old neurotic cat (who I would've taken back, quite willingly!), and now I have three lovable affectionate cats that are exactly the kind of cat my mom wants (with the exception of their color!)
I've thought of getting her to foster a kitten, but my mom is afraid that she'll fall in love with the new kitten and the older cat won't get enough attention. I've thought of just getting her a male kitten myself and bringing it over and just making sure everybody deals. (There really is no risk she'll put the other cat down -- my dad wouldn't let her). Or getting my dad to not listen to my mom and just bring home a kitten anyway.
Sorry this is so long. I know it seems trivial, but this is actually causing major strife and arguments in my family. And here's the question -- given all this, how can I get my mom a new cat!?! How can I convince her it won't cause the current cat to have a mental breakdown? Added difficulty: it also has to be a cat with the desired personality traits of cuddliness and friendliness, otherwise we're just compounding the problem.