Delete these pix of your ex!
September 23, 2009 10:02 PM Subscribe
Keeping photos of your ex: how has this changed in the digital era?
posted by cgs to Human Relations (44 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I have had a few serious girlfriends over the years. I also maintain a well organized personal media archive, organized by year, month, etc. Is it creepy or natural to hold onto photos and videos of ex-girlfriends when I enter a new, serious relationship?
I mean, how does this compare to (back in the day) the new girlfriend finding that dusty shoebox of photos of the ex? I have heard dramatic stories about this situation, like "why are you still hanging onto these?!", along with requests to get rid of them. It often comes down to where that shoebox is stored: deep in the basement or someplace more easily reached. Compare that to my easy-to-use, readily accessible digital photo archive, complete with little videos and such.
My reaction would be "this happened to me and is part of my life...getting rid of them would be the same as deleting the neighboring photos of my family and friends". But then I think how I never saw any photos of either of my parent's ex's, along with just how readily available it is on my computer. Like, then is closer to now, due to the new technology.
Should I move them off of my day-to-day mac and onto an external drive and then down into the basement? Do couples have private areas on their computers? Am I being ridiculous? Have you ever had a discussion like this with your partner?
This isn't a pressing matter, just something I've been thinking about.
Thanks for your thoughts-