Help a social smoker quit. For good this time. Really.
September 15, 2009 2:30 PM Subscribe
My name is semacd and I am a social smoker.
posted by semacd to Health & Fitness (22 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So is my significant other. We both smoke sometimes when we drink. I'd say we smoke 1-10 cigarettes a couple of times a month (so, 2 (low end) - 20 (binge-fest) cigarettes a month). Probably 10 per month is most common. Neither of us ever craves the nicotine rush we hear about. We just LOVE to smoke. We love the smell. We love the oral satisfication. We love the camaraderie of being out with friends, drinking beers and sharing a cigarette. We love the romance of smoking - i.e. a cigarette in some rough and tumble country is really hard for us to resist. Our best friends are serious smokers - pack a day smokers, so that makes it hard too. We do exert a LOT of control - we'd smoke every day if it weren't for the health consequences because we think it's so fun - but we still falter with some regularity.
But we both really want to quit. We hate that we ever smoke. Do you have any tips? We've quit for months/years but are smoking again. We've tried rules, like "only 1 on new years!' to make quitting entirely not seem like such a burden. But that doesn't work because we keep giving ourselves exceptions. And obviously booze doesn't help - just a little and we start granting exemptions to ourselves. The obvious answer may be to also give up booze, but that would mean seeing our friends much less, and that's, therefore, really unappealing.
I don't think the standard advice works for us all that well. We don't feel any health consequences even though we work out a lot, so we don't have that immediate motivation. Likewise looks. I could be wrong, but I don't think either of us look like we smoke. I've thought about rewarding ourselves when we hit certain milestones, but can't find anything more compelling than health, and that doesn't seem to be rewarding enough to prevent us from ever falling off the wagon.
But we understand the health consequences, and don't want to be the idiots who do that to ourselves more than we've already done. If you were a social smoker like we are, what worked for you?