Dont Hang Up On Me
September 9, 2009 2:45 PM Subscribe
Do I have bad phone etiquette?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (53 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend and I have a horrible time on the phone. He has told me since the beginning of our relationship that the one thing he cannot tolerate is being hung up on. I've tried to explain to him that I need his help because ultimately I am justified in hanging up the phone on him under the following circumstances:
1) Me telling him repeatedly that I have to get off the phone to go to a meeting or go to bed or go to the bathroom and him not allowing me to end the conversation (this is particularly true in an argument).
2) His insistence on not allowing me to speak. No exaggeration, he will talk endlessly (10-15 minutes without me saying one word, I've timed it) and then when I try to say something he will begin talking over me after I'm able to say 2-5 words. Again, this is particularly true in an argument. He will go on and on and repeat his points over and over again, moving from topic to topic with no response from me. It's actually quite unbelievable. When I get to the point where I'm so frustrated I could explode, I will hang up the phone.
Once I finally cross the line in these arguments and do the unthinkable (hang the phone up on him) he will then shift all his energies to making me feel bad about hanging up on him. Telling me that that is the ultimate betrayal and that since I "know how it affects him" it makes it that much more egregious.
Am I crazy? Is it not acceptable to end a conversation that I no longer care to be in (and never was in in the first place)?