What can an adult son do to help his homeless, possibly mentally ill mother states away?
My husband just got a call from his aunt that they have found his mother living homeless by the river in Madison, IN. My husband (27) has not spoken to his mother (55) in two years and the relationship has always been strained. He has long suspected that she is mentally ill and moved out as soon as he could. I have had little experience with her, but here is one example. She came to visit us and her other son 3 years ago. One night of the visit, my husband and I were going to take her out to our favorite restaurant. While we were at work that day, my husband gets a call from her saying that he is "sneaky and deceitful" and that she wasn't going to allow us to take her out to dinner. She then rented a hotel and stayed there the rest of the visit (she had previously been staying with us). Both my husband and his brother asked her what she meant, but she wouldn't tell either of them. I have no idea what it could have been. She didn't call him for a year. Next time they talk, she accuses him of being on drugs and hangs up on him. He has never done drugs in his life. My husband tells these horror stores from his childhood. I don't know what type of illness she may have, but according to family, it's been getting worse.
His aunt (who also has a strained relationship with her sister) wants my husband and his brother to come out and have some sort of intervention. What are their legal options? We live in AZ and don't have much money. We can afford a couple of flights, but not much else. I know it's very difficult (if not impossible) to get someone committed involuntarily. She is apparently very deeply in debt and hasn't been employed in over a year. She has her MA and she used to have a successful career. Would the state of Indiana pay for any sort of help? She's lived there almost her whole life. I saw the other question
earlier this week, but I was hoping someone would know something pertinent to Indiana, or about children helping parents. She divorced my husband's father years ago, and he has since passed. She doesn't really have anyone close to her. What about social security? Or state health care?
Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks for letting me ramble on a bit