“On Monday I wished it was Tuesday night, so I could wish for the weekend to come...”
July 16, 2009 11:47 AM Subscribe
Help me stop wishing the days away.
posted by dreamphone to work & money (22 answers total) 32 users marked this as a favorite
Since the beginning of my working life (more than twenty years ago, if you count part-time teenage-era jobs), I have generally conceived of work as an unpleasantness to be “gotten through,” before I could enjoy myself. Subsequently, each day, and every part of each day, has its own intrinsic advantage or disadvantage based on where it is located in the week. For example, Thursday is better than Tuesday, because it is closer to the weekend. Four pm is better than 10am because its closer to quitting time.
I used to think that I did this because I had a career for which I was unsuited, but after a major career change from a field that wasn’t a good fit to something that feels like a perfect fit for me, I find that I still do it. (Although the “lows” are less low—I no longer get those really harsh “Sunday blues” that I used to.) I suspect that my mindset has more to do with a habit, attitude, or worldview, rather than whether I enjoy my work. Additionally, now that I am (temporarily) a stay-at-home mom, I find that I do it to an equal degree (that is, I count the hours until my husband comes home or the number of days till the weekend, when my home workload will lighten a little).
I’m sure that lots of people experience this to some degree, but it strikes me as sad. I don’t want to spend my days and weeks, and—by extension—my very life, wishing the days away.
The question in all of this is: Has anyone successfully transitioned out of this mindset, and if so, how?
Note: For the sake of clarity and convenience, I’ve presented this question using a 9-to-5 model, but I’ve held jobs beyond the standard workweek, and, if anything, the anticipation-dread cycle is worse in a non-standard cycle, because I’m likely to experience half-days off spent sulking about the fact that I have to work later that afternoon or evening.)
Also: Maybe others will hear this differently, and it’s fine if you do, but I consider myself to be a cheerful, positive, rarely-depressed person.