Feel miserable, trying to establish friendship.
July 13, 2009 4:10 PM Subscribe
I'm lonely but I don't want to be around anyone. Please advise how to get through this grief.
posted by giggleknickers to health & fitness (27 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
A whole bunch of really bad events have happened in my life recently, one on top of the other. I feel absolutely awful.
What do you do in times like this? You turn to friends right? Thing is, one of the awful things that happened had all my friends gang up on me like we were back in junior high (We're in our 30's for goodness sake), because someone said that I did something I actually didn't. They refuse to even hear my side of the story. I don't want to try and win them over any more because now I don't feel like they were ever really my friends in the first place.
What I feel like doing is sitting at home eating ice cream and feeling sorry for myself. But I refused to, and I spent the last month forcing myself to go out and do things and meet new people, because then I'll feel better. Unfortunately, it just seems to make me feel worse when I'm out somewhere with lots of great, nice, friendly people but I'm just feeling miserable.
I can't seem to really establish a relationship with anyone, so that the "people I hang out with" friends become "people I love and trust and depend on" friends. I guess that takes time, right? It's a Catch 22 because I really need that type of friend right now, but I'm in the wrong state of mind to evolve that kind of friendship.
It may be relevant to disclose that I'm on anti-depressants and have been for around a year and a half. They work great, but this isn't depression. This is grief, and there's no pill for that.
I really thought that just going out and doing things and keeping busy was the answer, but nothing seems to distract me from feeling miserable.
So, I'm sorry if I don't have a clear, direct question. Just hoping for some general advice. I guess the question is: What do I do?