Good places to "hook-up", as the kids say, with women in the Boston or Providence area?

July 12, 2009 2:38 PM

Good places to "hook-up", as the kids say, with women in the Boston or Providence area?

I am 30...recently moved to Boston after getting out of a long term relationship. Painful breakup etc. Trying to get my mojo back and hoping to meet some women to, shall we say, have some fun with. I don't want to trick anyone into thinking its a long term relationship etc. Not even saying I want sex...at this point even a make-out session would be a think of beauty.

I can't ask people at my new job for advice because they are all older (50ish) and married. Not to mention I feel slightly embarrassed asking about "hooking up"...but yeah that's what I need in my life right now.

I am 30 and fairly average looking. Also a bit on the shy side...not terribly so but a little.

So any advice?

posted by anonymous to Human Relations (7 answers total)

Go to a swing club. It's more honest, people are 100% adamant about safer sex, and nobody confuses it for anything more than what it is.
posted by aquafortis at 2:50 PM on July 12, 2009

Jesus. It's a bit of a leap from "where are the cool bars?" to "swing club." Casual sex != swinging. And also, for the record, it is often very difficult for single males to gain access to such clubs anyway. Not a good solution.

Anonymous, what you're looking for is usually a bit easier for women than for men but I'm pretty sure it's doable. I'd be happy to suggest bars but I don't live in that area anymore.
posted by DarlingBri at 3:25 PM on July 12, 2009 [1 favorite]

craigslist?

i know a couple of local folks who use craigslist personals for no-strings fun.
posted by rmd1023 at 3:42 PM on July 12, 2009

Go to the bars on Lansdowne street, just watch out for the under-agers.
It's not the classiest or best scene Boston has to offer, but it's got what you want-- singles scene, people who are just out for a night of drinking and fun etc.
posted by rmless at 4:00 PM on July 12, 2009

I've never been to the Boston area, but I'm pretty sure it's universally good advice to never say "hook up" to any woman... ever.
posted by runcibleshaw at 12:37 AM on July 13, 2009

I have a friend in Boston who has been doing this exact thing via Craigslist with great success. Hopefully someday he'll write an anonymous tell-all book, because the stories are hilarious :P
posted by restless_nomad at 6:25 AM on July 13, 2009

Craigslist is almost too skeevy even for this, try nerve.com or various other dating sites that have causal sex sections.
posted by Potomac Avenue at 12:29 PM on July 14, 2009