How do I get over feeling like a total idiot for believing in a relationship that she ended without a second thought?
Long story short, I went through this
, but it was 10 years of friendship/love including 2 years of marriage. My first real, long-term thing. We went through some rough patches, who doesn't, but while I always thought we would work it out, make it through, and be in it forever, she apparently didn't have the faith or trust in us that I did.
Enough time has passed and thanks to the above link, I am pretty well over it. No love, no longing, no revenge fantasies or wishing we would get back together. No real interest in seeing or speaking to her, though we run into each other plenty in social situations and it's cordial. Just a genuine desire and excitement to move on with my life.
What I am feeling, however, in INCREDIBLE stupidity. I feel like such an idiot for being in this relationship for SO long (not to mention thinking it would last,) with someone who was on such a completely different page that she ended it without even really trying to save it.
Did you feel this dumb post-breakup? How did you get over it? Is it just a "hindsight is 20/20, love is blind, give it time" kind of deal?
Thanks, me-fiers. It feels like this is the last mental obstacle to closing the book, so I appreciate your help.