How do you deal with the unexpected death of a spouse?
June 21, 2009 8:40 PM Subscribe
Have you lost a spouse at a very young age? How did you cope?
posted by mrbill to human relations (73 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
My wife of eight years (we'd been together for 11) passed away suddenly, unexpectedly, the night of Tuesday June 16th. Cause of death is yet to be determined; I found her in the bathtub (not drowned). Toxicology results may take 2-4 months to come back.
We'd been constant companions and best friends since 1998. My mother is here (Houston) from Oklahoma, and I've got lots of friends and neighbors (including MeFites - thanks again, pommegranate!) who are checking in on me and helping with anything needed. However, it's going to be rough next week after the funeral when everyone leaves.
Anyone have suggestions other than "stay busy"? My Masonic lodge brothers are going to keep me occupied, and I go back to work the 29th - but there's going to be a lot of quiet nights.