How can I convince someone that they REALLY need to see a M.D.?
June 14, 2009 8:27 PM Subscribe
My SO has a fairly serious medical condition, and refuses to go to the doctor. Is there any way that I can/should address this?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (46 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My SO of 3 years is in pretty good health, not overweight, non-smoker, but has known for a while that he has high blood sugar. Today I was talking to him and I noticed that I smelled what I perceive as artificial cherry smell on his breath. He had not eaten artificial or real cherry anything today.
I recognize it as a ketone smell, meaning ketoacidosis, which in my non-professional opinion would mean that he has likely gone from pre-diabetic to diabetic. He acknowledged this, and apparently has no intention of going to the doctor. I even looked up ketoacidosis, and pointed out to him that he was exhibiting several of the signs. He just rolled his eyes and politely told me to quit nagging.
Maybe I'm taking this the wrong way, but I feel like his total lack of concern for his health, and his unwillingness to go to see the doctor, translate into not really giving a crap about me or us or whatever (besides the obvious fact that he is ignoring a really big problem). It makes me feel like he doesn't value our relationship, because he doesn't seem to care if he doesn't get to spend time with me due to death or extreme illness. It's rather hurtful. He needs to see a doctor. Is there some way that I should react to this that would be more effective than nagging? Am I taking this the wrong way, and making a mountain out of a molehill?
He's not depressed, he always seems to be happy with me and our relationship, but he is one of those people that avoids seeing the doctor unless his arms blew off or something, and even then he would probably try to use duct tape to tape them back in place instead of seeking medical attention. My throwaway email is email@example.com. Any thoughts, insight, ideas, anecdotes, etc., would be appreciated.