FWIW, here's my experiences at three different normal/mental hospitals in NJ, two public and one private:
Pack a bag of important stuff. Phone card (they only have one pay phone in psychiatric wards and hospitals so they can control what calls go in and out), clothes, toiletries, anything you need to make your stay not horrible (I brought a notebook). If you find yourself in the ER with only the clothes on your back, call a relative to pack and bring a bag over for you.
If you have the presence of mind to be able to make a call to your insurance company, do it. If you don't, have a friend do it. They can be real bitches: "Oh you didn't notify us before you went to ER, we're not paying." It's good that you've already told your counselor; that shows a real awareness of where you and what you're feeling and a recognition that you can be a danger to yourself.
Bring someone along who you trust and are close to. Unless you are seriously bleeding and need critical care (please don't get up to that point), don't be suprised if they make you wait for hours before you are checked in. In the state you are in, time will not be kind and you shouldn't have to suffer a mite more than you have to by listening to the thoughts in your head. Having a friend along to talk to will make that experience easier.
Once you are checked in, you may or may not get sent to the psychiatric ward. (Your friends and family won't be able to visit until visiting hours now.) This depends on how full they are. In NYC, I'm betting they are going to be pretty full (all my experiences were in urban areas, it was the same there). If you don't get sent to psychiatric, you'll still get a normal bed and meals, and then get to sent to psych.
Once you get to the psych ward, a nurse will be around to take down all your info, get your physical stats (blood pressure, etc.), medical history, etc. They'll check your bag to make sure you didn't pack anything dangerous to yourself or others and take them away. They'll also take away any meds you've brought, including psych ones. For the next couple days, they'll be the ones in charge of doling them out. They'll also take away cell phones, other things, etc. Don't wear shoes with shoelaces; they'll take them away because you might use them to hang yourself.
That'll be check-in day. The staff psychiatrist may do a full interview with you that day or the next. Depending on space, insurance, other circumstances (i.e. refusing to take meds got me involuntarily committed and sent to another hospital), etc. you may or may not be transferred to another mental hospital. It'll be in an ambulance, you'll be on a stretcher (to cover legal purposes, really. I don't think you'll be thrashing around). If it's involuntary commitment, you'll be strapped down, but not in a "let's control the crazy person way", again for legal purposes. Wherever you end up, try to get a good night's sleep that night. They usually hand out Trazadone (sp?) to anyone who wants it to help them sleep.
Staff usually leave you alone the first day you're there. Most patients sleep because they are pretty exhausted. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner are at set times, some hospitals may have group activities (you're not *forced* to go, but orderlies can be insistent about it sometimes; it's seen as a sign of good/improving health if you start socializing and are able to talk about what you're going through). AA and NA meetings will be available.
There's no need to be scared of the other patients. I've never come across a violent patient (or one who was violent *in* the hospital) and even the ones who were "crazy and babbling" calm down once their meds kick in. I doubt there will be many conflicts between you guys. Most people are too focused on the shit going on inside their own heads to start trouble with others. On the whole, other patients are friendly and supportive, you'll make temporary friends :-) I find there's two types of patients: the ones who want to get out really fast, and the ones who don't want to leave (because they have no place to go to).
Important points:
1. You should know that once you check in as a psych patient *it will be a long process before they let you walk out*. My third stay I left AMA (against medical advice) but since I was there voluntarily they *did* let me out, about 24 hours after I filled out the form to be discharged. My first time was involuntary; you do the math.
2. Also, in NJ you can't just check into certain mental hospitals. They require you to go to a normal hospital's ER first and get transferred over. I'm not sure how it is NYC.
YMMV points:
Some of the orderlies can be dicks. Don't worry, not in a Nurse Ratchet way. But it's amazing how different their experience of a mental hospital is from yours. I've endured a few incredibly condescending lectures from well-meaning orderlies looking down their nose at me, and it's been the same with some other patients. "Let me tell you what I've been through but I've never ended up in a mental hospital." Really tells you who they think they're dealing with, eh? They think they're being encouraging. But they're just missing an empathy chip. Ignore them. Most of the orderlies are kind and don't have anything to prove.
Really, I hope the best turns out for you. When you get out, don't be surprised if things don't turn around right away. Be patient with yourself. You don't have to prove your "spritual strength" to anyone. I have no idea what you've been through and everybody's got a different path. It'll take time and I wish you the best. Things will get better, even if it's slowly. EVERYTHING WILL BE OK.
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posted by BrnP84 at 7:52 PM on June 14, 2009