Is it me or him? Help me with neighborly noise.
May 25, 2009 7:26 AM Subscribe
Am I overly sensitive to my neighbor's noise? If not, what magic words can I say to my landlord?
posted by motsque to home & garden (32 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a female grad student living alone in an apartment that I mostly love. I've been here about a year, and I'm waiting on my landlord to bring by a new lease for another year. I've looked through past posts on the issue, but I couldn't find my exact situation.
My neighbor talks all the time, apparently to himself. I can hear him screaming while he's in the shower, banging in the kitchen -- wherever he is in the apartment, he's yelling about the economy, politics, whatever. Sometimes he seems to be yelling at the T.V. or radio. Sometimes it's of a personal nature (I know way too much about him), and maybe he's on the phone then.
The common wall between our apartments is in my bedroom, so I complained to the landlord before Christmas when he was talking until midnight or one and starting again around 4 or 5 a.m. The landlord later told me that he couldn't get in touch with the guy, although the noise toned down for a bit. These days, it's pretty quite during late, late hours since I complained a second time a few months ago. It's starting back up again pretty bad though.
Also a few months ago, my landlord was in here doing some work on my apartment, and commented about how it was true, you could hear the neighbor like he's in the room with you. However, my landlord also asked me both times I complained to not actually confront the neighbor or say anything to him directly (which bolsters my suspicion that the guy is a little unstable).
Since the last time I've complained, I moved my bed into the far corner of my living room, where I've been sleeping well. I put my work station in my bedroom, but I'll be moving that back out to the living room today as well. Basically, my bedroom is useless, even for watching TV, if my neighbor is home.
So here's the essence of my question: Am I over-sensitive? I know that in apartments, a certain level of neighbor-noise is expected and must be dealt with. I can handle my other neighbors, their kids, whatever, but this guy -- having been exposed to this constantly has finally worn down my tolerance, I think. Have I already been too accommodating by sleeping in my living room and wearing ear plugs while he's home? (Ear plugs only work if I'm in a far corner -- I can still hear him clear as a bell through foam ear plugs if I'm in the bedroom.) Oh, and while I don't mind the occasional obscenity, this guy can put sailors to shame, which was pretty upsetting for my uber-conservative mother the only time she stayed over.
If I'm not over-sensitive, what magic words can I say to my landlord to finally get this guy to shut up? I love the location of my apartment, the price, the layout, and I don't want to leave. Part of me thinks I shouldn't have to be the one to go just because my neighbor screams at the T.V. all day. What do I tell my landlord to force him to do something?
Sorry if this is long. I'm a little frazzled since I'm trying to work from home today, but neighbor's off work for Memorial Day and having a go at the news.