Should I break up with my smoker girlfriend?
May 19, 2009 7:57 PM Subscribe
My girlfriend and I have been together for about five years. When we first got together, I knew that she smoked, but she said she planned on quitting smoking altogether and I believed her. Not only do I find smoking offensive but I also have pretty severe asthma, which means that I cannot be anywhere near smoke.
Is this hopeless? Should I just break up with her, since smoking seems to be the glue that hold her whole life together?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (40 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Five years later, she smokes less but she still smokes at social situations. The additional problem is that all of her friends are smokers, as are most of her family. Most of her friends only do things that would allow them to smoke. When we are in social situations, she smokes with her friends, leaving me to either find someplace where people aren't smoking or not go with her. These days, I mostly choose not to go out with her.
I've approached her with the problem, and she basically says "they all smoke, what can I do about it?"
She gets angry that I don't want to go out with her and her friends/family, but when I do I end up alone or sick, and usually angry.