Separation or divorce while continuing to live together?
May 19, 2009 12:58 PM Subscribe
Is it possible to get started on an amicable divorce or separation agreement while still living together?
posted by anonymous to human relations (16 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
She cheated on me, we tried to fix it but we can't, now I want out. Late 20s, married 2 years, no kids, no major shared assets. We live in a two bedroom apartment and she's more or less moved into the extra room since I discovered the affair a few months ago. We've been in counseling since before I found out but nothing is working and I know now that I'd be happier without her. We still get along most of the time but the trust is broken forever and I'll never look at her the same way again. We'd both like to be friends once the dust settles. I don't make a lot of money and she's unemployed. I feel like the best way to transition into single life given our circumstances would be to ask for a separation or divorce but remain living together while we sort out the details, separate our finances, continue going to couples therapy, give 2 months notice on our apartment etc... Is this realistic? Could we be roommates for a little while before heading off in separate directions? It feels like the alternative is throwing her out or me leaving on short notice and both of those things would be very difficult emotionally and financially for both of us. Our first opportunity to get out of our lease would involve giving notice by the end of May and being out by Aug 1. Also, for financial and emotional reasons I'd like to do this in a non-adversarial way and without lawyers if at all possible. We don't have a lot of "Us" stuff besides wedding gifts so I think we could separate our assets fairly amicably. We're in Ontario FWIW.