Thanks for all the responses so far. I would like to add a few things to help clarify, and redirect some incorrect assumptions.
I understand the concerns about the future, and its totally reasonable to expect that anything can happen (including this horrible financial situation outlasting us all), but I can assure you at this point, the two of us are in a healthy, committed long-term relationship. My bf is taking full responsibility and actively working towards correcting his past bad decision in entering into the horrendous loan. He did not ask me to put this on my CC, or any such thing. He doesn't want to burden me, nor do we have any desire to create co-dependencies of any sort. The CC thing is an option only I thought of, and am running by the MeFi hive, because both of us are unable to get approved for a loan together (despite our high credit scores and excellent payment/lending histories...banks just simply aren't lending).
We are three people openly and amicably working on solving a problem. Bf really does have his life together, and his payment history with both me and his ex of several years adds to my trust in him, not to mention his expert handling of the emotional complications that have arisen between all involved. Like I said, we are in this together, for the long haul. If I can help, I will. Judgement and critique of his past decisions, and suggestions for me to tell my boyfriend to 'grow up' really do not help. He has spent years diligently crawling out from his debt and repairing his credit score. We are stuck right now, due to the inability to procure a loan, hence the seeking of crazy-sounding alternatives. That said, I really appreciate the informative responses about why the credit card route is a bad idea. I will not be doing that. However, wfrgms suggestion of trying to get a loan entirely on my own, and co-signing on the driving policy, is possible (even though it does in a certain respect, recreate the dependency that we are trying to avoid, especially if bf and I break up). But it is highly unlikely that I will get approved, due to my student status. He will definitely not get approved on his own, nor does he have a credit line or % rates that allow him to put this on his CC. He/we are open to alternative solutions that would allow us to do the legal and moral thing; the lending library mentioned above will be looked into, thanks.
zippy: I am still a student; generally you begin paying back your loans starting 6 months after you graduate (2 years from now for me). My small student loan debt (and student status) was part of the reason that we've been rejected by the bank and that's why I mentioned it.
Also, I am confused at the many suggestions to sell the car. How would this help this situation? He would still have to find a way to assume/pay-off a massive loan (the crux of the problem), and would still need to have a reliable car. Also noteworthy is that the loan holder (Ex) lives on the East Coast, and the car/us are in CA.
Thanks again hive!
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I don't know about you, but I get these blank checks in the mail from my CC company that offer 0 interest or a really 2.9% interest rate. So if you are hell bent on taking this on I'd try for one of those offers. (Or a new card with a low introductory rate)
posted by Gungho at 7:42 AM on April 23