My roomate is in love with the girl I'm seeing, help!
April 22, 2009 2:03 PM Subscribe
My roommate is trying to get together with the girl I'm semi-secretly dating. What am I supposed to do?
posted by anonymous to human relations (30 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So I live in a large metropolitan area that often feels like a small town due to the nature of the neighborhoods and various communities. I recently went through a breakup and was living with my girlfriend at the time. I ended up moving in with a friend who had a room available. I don't know him all that well, but he is a really good guy.
Anyway, I met a new girl through rather extraordinary circumstances that I won't get into because they aren't really relevant, but have nothing to do with my roommate. We started hanging out a lot and sleeping together a couple weeks ago. Things seem to be progressing into a relationship and I'm really into her.
Meanwhile, my roommate has known her for a number of years. After not having contact for a couple of years they just started talking again right before she and I met. Perfect. So he's really smitten with her and is really trying his hardest to get together with her. She's been clear that she's not interested but wants to be his friend. They've never been involved romantically. He knows that we've talked, but not that we've been spending lots of time together. So I feel like crap because I'm spending all this time with her, coming home early in the morning after sleeping over and trying to avoid talking to my roommate. It all seems drama filled and ridiculous.
I guess that's about it. I feel like we should probably tell him because the longer it goes on the worse it's going to be when he eventually finds out. Is there a diplomatic way to do it that won't strain our friendship or am I just screwed? Or should we just keep it on the down low and I'll move out or something? Please help!