April 13, 2009 8:17 PM Subscribe
Robbed on the street in daylight - didn't get hurt, didn't lose much, but I'm worried about the anxiety and stress of the aftermath.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (19 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Okay, so I was robbed walking home tonight - relatively populated area, well lit, middle of the day. It was the first time this, or really anything like it, has ever happened to me. A young kid made off with my wallet and cell phone by pretending (probably) to have a gun - I didn't want to take any chances. I didn't get hurt, the guy never came closer than three feet away. The financial loss is not huge (minimal cash, shut off the cards, have to go through the trouble and inconvenience of replacing ID, etc). No real advice needed there.
Here's the thing: I'm already a person who's anxious, from time to time, about my personal safety and plagued by constant "what ifs" if something went badly. I'm concerned I may come out of this experience more fearful / anxious on the street, less willing to stay out and do the things I enjoy, irrationally apprehensive around young men, fearful of living in an urban area, impulsively racist (the kid happened to have been black), etc. A key part of being able to resolve my anxiety, stress and loneliness has been staying out late with friends, doing what I like to do, etc. As a pacifist, I'm also concerned that these tendencies really hinder my long-term personal / spiritual goals.
Recommendations about how to cope with this short and long term are much appreciated. I'm an early-20s white male, if it matters.