How do I adjust to having sex with someone very small?
April 5, 2009 7:40 PM Subscribe
My previous partners have always been my size or larger and stronger than me. Now my new partner is six inches shorter, seventy pounds lighter, and much weaker than I am. I am terrified of hurting them in bed and it makes me so nervous I have trouble relaxing and getting into the mood.
posted by anonymous to human relations (7 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
The real problem is I'm used to a very rough style of play, to the point where I've never really done anything else. Obviously I can't go as rough with this person as I could with bigger, stronger partners. I end up overcompensating and everything seems so light and delicate it's awkward.
Has anyone encountered this problem? How do you adjust so that you can balance aggressiveness without overdoing it? Very small people, have you ever had a problem with larger partners going too hard or hurting you?