What is her issue with my issues?
April 3, 2009 11:52 AM Subscribe
I have issues. My new friend takes issue with that.
posted by crickets to human relations (31 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I think of myself as a complicated guy, and there are any number of things I would like to improve about myself, mostly on the emotional side of things. At times I describe myself as being "broken." I also describe myself as "having issues." I think my issues are a bit more problematic than most people's, but they aren't really anything that prevents me from functioning or living a normal life or being a good person. (I am also actively working on them, but that's not why I'm here.)
I have a new friend that I've become very close to (it could end up as a romantic relationship one day, but circumstances dictate that for now it is not), and she thinks that these descriptors are overly negative and counter-productive, and is encouraging me to find new, more positive language to use.
I can see where she's coming from with "broken" -- it's a harsh word, and I agree that there are more constructive ways to think of myself.
But "having issues"? I've tried to understand where she's coming from, but I just don't see the negativity in it. Can anyone help me understand where she's coming from here?
Follow-up: If you feel "having issues" is too negative, how could I be thinking about myself (the goal being positive and constructive self-criticism)?
(And before you say it, yes, I will be asking my therapist these questions as well. :)