Should I show my cheating wife an angry letter I wrote? Can our relationship be saved?
March 29, 2009 10:06 PM Subscribe
She cheated, I'm heartbroken, how much should I hold back? Should I deliver an angry letter? Can our marriage be saved?
posted by anonymous to human relations (57 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I just found out my partner of 8 years (wife of 1.5) cheated on me for 3 months - starting about a month after the wedding. This was about 18 months ago but I just found out by reading some things scrawled in a notebook left in living room (flipped through it to see if it was mine, came across some crazy stuff, confronted her and she admitted it). I believe her when she says it's over but now I'm left with feelings of mistrust, anger and shame.
She seems ready to open up and be honest with me and claims it never happened before and won't happen again. I still love her but like I said I'm angry. She's been away and won't be back for a couple of days. We spoke on the phone and by IM a few times but I don't want to discuss it too much before we can do it in person. I've written an angry stream of consciousness letter and I'm trying to decide whether or not to share it with her. The letter is angry but honest about my hurt feelings and aside from a few swear words, doesn't really try to hurt her. Should I share it? I don't know how but I'd like to eventually put this behind us and work things out, but I also want to own my anger and tell her how she made me feel. (FYI: We're in our late 20's and have no kids)