Problems with sex
March 19, 2009 6:53 PM Subscribe
I'm worried about my new-ish sex life with my boyfriend. Please help me figure out if everything is alright, and if it isn't what I can do.
posted by anonymous to human relations (24 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'll preface this question by first stating that this is all very new! We've had intercourse about 20 times, so pretty much we are just starting out.
I was a virgin (age 25) before we had sex for the first time about a month ago and he has had about six partners (age 30) in his entire life.
When we first started doing sex-type stuff (handjobs) he couldn't orgasm, but after some working through stuff he was able to come. When we first attempted to have intercourse a month ago we had some serious problems with my hymen.I took a good three weeks before we could have intercourse without serious pain for me.
Things were great for like a week, and now just recently, the last time we tried, he had problems maintaining his erection and we just gave up.
It seems like sex is an uphill battle. I feel really discouraged and don't know what to do. How can I be supportive when feel so angry and discouraged myself?
The closest sex therapist is a three hour drive away and charges $150 per hour, so we can't afford that now.
Is it normal to have these many problems? I'm really worried that he will continue to have problems maintaining his erection and that it will devolve into some sort of negative feedback loop that destroys our relationship.