How do I develop a sense of humor?
March 4, 2009 4:14 PM Subscribe
I'm waaaay too serious (please excuse the irony in my even asking this question): What makes for good humor and how can I learn to get better at using it to improve my relationships with other people?
I've learned that humor is how we prevent ourselves and others from taking things too seriously, from getting stuck in the mire of everyday drudgery. In a recession/depression, humor is more important than ever for keeping things in perspective. My problem is, I need to learn how to do this. I am often too serious and I need help to get in shape, to work off the weight of the world that weighs me down.
Presently, I'm trying to hang around funny people to learn from them and watch comedy programs like the Colbert Report and the Daily Show. I suspect there's more. What else can I do or what has been helpful for you in your experience?
Are there any specific guides or exercises for how to cultivate a better sense of humor? Do you have any experiences, tips, suggestions, advice, resources, web links, books, magazine articles, youtube clips, movies, and comedy programs that would be helpful in developing a better sense of humor?
Assuming I know nothing, what makes for good humor? Are there humor calisthenics I could practice? Clubs? Forums? Workout videos? User manuals? Habits?
Altruistically, I also know that my getting better with humor is not only good for my own state of mind, but also means better relationships with other people and a better quality of life for almost everyone I talk with throughout the course of a day.
Please excuse the lack of humor in this post. In tough times, can you help make the world a better place with your suggestion of something you've found helpful to change that?
posted by SocialArgonaut to human relations (41 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
If it doesn't come naturally to you it's going to be a bit difficult. No humor at all is much better than the poor humor that would inevitably result from trying too hard.
That being said - in an effort to try to be helpful: A lot of people are funny just because they quote a lot of funny stuff. I don't think Colbert or Stewart are good targets for this kind of imitation. The most imitated lines probably come from The Simpsons, Seinfeld (a bit out of date now, but still incredibly quotable), and Saturday Night Live (when it's good). Memorize those shows and work some lines and observations into daily conversation. That should get you started.
(I met a guy in the 80's who I honestly thought was one of the funniest people I had ever met. Then I saw the movie Vacation. It turned out that he had stolen about 80% of his humor from that one movie.)
posted by crapples at 4:21 PM on March 4, 2009 [4 favorites]