Help me find someone?
February 25, 2009 7:41 PM   Subscribe

What if you had the chance to introduce two people who would fall in love, and happily get married someday? Would you risk it, or think it might be too much of a risk???

I'm talking about myself here, and my inability to get a girl-friend for myself... it's not because of any personal reason, but the girls who I like--women who know what they want, and aren't afraid to get it--don't want me it seems. They try and say it in a nice way, but the answer's right there, and I like them too much to not be a friend.

I don't know why I'm made to face this fate, but there it is. Perhaps it's partly my fault, because I have such a high expectation of it, but it's worth it. I would like nothing more to find that woman who says the right thing, at the right time, and you can't help feeling for her.

So Mefite's, here I am, to finally ask you for your help. I could've done this with my Parent's, asking them to find a girl for me, but I don't trust their choice would be as appririate for me, as my own. Then again, may be theirs will, in a year or two when they start searching.

But I trust you guys. Your like the type of people I would want to be like. But would you consider setting me up with someone. It's a bonus if she's my age and lives right here in India... I think we can talk about religion and everything else.

I'm good. I have a job lined up, and I plan to make a career out of it--one that will pay me enough to keep me happy. I wouldn't mind if she worked too, and depended on-herself for any income she needs, if that's what she wants.

I'm right now recovering from the accident, and this should be done with by March, and then it's upto me. I also have an exam coming up in May/June for my BA second year, and will get my third year degree by November/December. So I'm not a hopeless time-waster.

Also, I would like to work in the global Computer industries that we've got here, and try and do the best for my clients... I feel the only thing I'm lacking is the type of woman I need, or maybe that will turn out to be another lesson to learn from.

cortex, I hope this isn't an inappropriate post, because this is the kind of stuff which bothers me from time to time, and I wish I had an answer.
posted by hadjiboy to Human Relations (6 answers total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: this is not what mefi is for. If you don't know whether something is appropriate ASK, don't do this sort of thing here. -- jessamyn

 
What is your question specifically? Are you asking if we could set you up with someone? If that's the case, I think that would be fairly difficult without knowing you and the more intimate nuances of what you're searching for. That said, is there any type of social organization at your university that would be of help to you?
posted by December at 7:47 PM on February 25, 2009


Ask Metafilter is not a shadchan.

hadjiboy, you should really know how this place works by now.
posted by amro at 7:50 PM on February 25, 2009


Your like the type of people I would want to be like. But would you consider setting me up with someone?

No. And here's why: You are too desperate. Not "desperate" in a mean sense, but desperate in that you think that this -- THIS THING -- is the only way to happiness.

It isn't. There are many more things you need to do for yourself before finding a girl on whom you can unleash your many insecurities. And just to be clear -- having a girl isn't going to cure those insecurities.

And yes, I typed all this knowing that the thread will be deleted.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:52 PM on February 25, 2009 [3 favorites]


There are magical places out there on this very internet that provide this exact service. They're called dating sites. Examples you may have heard of include eHarmony and Match. It is very likely that there are even sites dedicated to serving folks in your area.
posted by amelioration at 7:53 PM on February 25, 2009


Try some internet-based dating sites hadjiboy, lots of people do. Even when this post goes it's all good, I learnt the word shadchan.
posted by tellurian at 7:57 PM on February 25, 2009


Perhaps it's partly my fault, because I have such a high expectation of it, but it's worth it.

That would be it. You make it into something other than the 50%-50% gotta-work-on-it-every-day it is, your making it into something its not. I'd focus on the small stuff, like just meeting lots of people.
posted by Ironmouth at 7:57 PM on February 25, 2009


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