I guess I do.
February 16, 2009 1:22 AM Subscribe
The future Mrs. and I don't have a clue as to what we should "preform" for our quite possibly surrealist wedding ceremony. Any suggestions for cynics like us?
posted by glibhamdreck to Society & Culture (13 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a bit of a curmudgeonly introvert who doesn't much care for being the center of attention, having my picture taken, wearing a suit, dancing, or really doing anything typically wedding, but for the sake of norms I can do a bit that's against my nature. She also isn't bound to any wedding traditions and doesn't have much interest in the ceremonial but is committed to developing the rest of the event's aesthetic. We both are atheists, utterly hate schmaltz, and have been living in sin for almost a decade now. Still, we like to throw a good party, and a wedding will make our families happy. So, what's the right way to show the guests that, ok, now we're married and you all can go eat?
Essentially in the woods, we plan to get married at dusk in front of a small audience of immediate family and close friends only. The staging will be sort of gypsy hippie--psychedelic anarchoprimitivism, if you must--a bit eccentric maybe but not at all campy. Also, my annual tradition of hosting a derivative pyrotechnics show (Burning Manchild) will immediate follow the wedding (Burning Man and Wife). I don't know what this year's build will be, but if it helps I'm leaning towards a large Rube Goldburgian chapel contraption of some sort.
We'll have a "reception" or some such nonsense a month or so after for extended family and other relative strangers, so we won't have to appease the expectations of anyone we're not close with the day of the wedding. We're also throwing ourselves a We're Getting Bloody Married bachelor/bachelorette burlesque party a month or so prior, so we shouldn't feel a need to out-debauchify that.
So what can we do for a wedding ceremony? Poetry? We might be able to find some Ferlinghetti or maybe Bukowski that we both like and won't offend the grandparents, but that's unlikely. Music? I don't know. Fischerspooner probably best captures the sentiment I'm feeling about this all today. Otherwise, I'm really hoping Jonathan Richman does weddings. She digs accordions. The presider? We really have no idea. I have an old antisemitism and christianity professor whose company I enjoy. What's a good balance between fun and not giving our folks heart attacks?