Comments on: The Secretary, now what?

Question: The Secretary, now what?

anonaccount — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:08:52 -0800

Me and my girlfriend got a total kick out of watching The Secretary together. If you know what I mean :) What other films should we watch together?

IMDB recommends some foreign language films which I know nothing about. I think we'd prefer them in English, with a decent plot.

I don't think it was the BDSM element that we liked, but I think the fact that it's a slight taboo made it more interesting, along with the slow burning sexual anticipation.

So what does the hive mind suggest to get us in the mood?

By: salvia

salvia — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:23:02 -0800

Maybe Bound? The tension there is between two women.

By: meerkatty

meerkatty — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:23:19 -0800

Shortbus
Lie With Me

By: slimepuppy

slimepuppy — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:25:37 -0800

Higher kink factor than Secretary and definitely not everyone's idea of 'hot', but they do both delve in the darker/weirder side of sexuality and are both seeped with a strong sense of style:

Blue Velvet
Crash

Bound gets a recommendation from me too.

By: RustyBrooks

RustyBrooks — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:25:47 -0800

You are probably going to know within about 10 minutes whether or not Shortbus is for you.

By: Joe Beese

Joe Beese — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:26:04 -0800

The original Swept Away, perhaps.

By: Joe Beese

Joe Beese — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:28:37 -0800

Sorry, missed the "English preferred".

If its YKIOK-ness was what you liked Secretary for, there's Kissed.

By: sswiller

sswiller — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:30:09 -0800

Buffalo 66
The Cook the Thief His Wife & Her Lover
Singapore Sling

By: sswiller

sswiller — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:30:39 -0800

'Bound' for sure.

By: logic vs love

logic vs love — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:31:38 -0800

Young People Fucking, maybe.

By: elendil71

elendil71 — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:33:33 -0800

Well if you are talking about sexy films, with maybe a bit of kink, try The Unbearable Lightness of Being. Terrific film and quite a bit of fairly graphic sex. And hats.

You may also like The Dreamers.

I should point out however, that the above films are not really about sex, they just have very well done erotic moments in them. They're actually kind of downers - no happy endings I'm afraid.

And for a kind of sleeper films, maybe:

Bliss - Not a spectacular film, and a woeful misrepresentation of yoga/tantra but good performaces and the entire film is about sex.

Swimming Pool - a sort of abstract film with a very sexy nymphette and a possible mystery. Strange ending.

By: Joe Beese

Joe Beese — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:34:56 -0800

The Cook, The Thief, His Wife & Her Lover is a terrific film - but its taboos aren't sexual (unless adultery counts) and it comes nowhere near having a "decent plot".

By: Kirklander

Kirklander — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:40:35 -0800

Thief of Hearts

By: misanthropicsarah

misanthropicsarah — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:50:07 -0800

i came in to say the dreamers and shortbus as well. also, possibly, tipping the velvet.

By: koeselitz

koeselitz — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:54:40 -0800

I know you've asked for films in English, but your question makes my mind jump immediately to Nagisa Oshima's In The Realm of the Senses. It's a real groundbreaker; hell, I don't think I've seen many films that are quite as shocking. The element of taboo is played to full effect there, as well. I've seen Shortbus, and while I liked it, it has a very positive, open attitude toward sex which, while probably well-advised, is not nearly so edgy as the taboo sort of thing you're describing.

In The Realm Of The Senses is a remarkable movie about a powerful man and his lowly mistress who comes to dominate him in every way imaginable. I mean that literally - every way imaginable - though I won't spoil the plot. It has for many years been the best example of one of those movies that makes everybody ask "art or porn?", though I personally think that the fact that you even have to ask that question makes the question unimportant.

It's fun to watch. And a little scary. But fun.

By: heyho

heyho — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:05:54 -0800

If you like your light kink kushed in a somewhat cheesy 80s aesthetic, you may like Nine 1/2 Weeks.

Is it nine half-weeks, or is it nine-and-half-weeks? You'll have to watch it to find out... (Argh!)

By: ndicecco

ndicecco — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:13:15 -0800

How about 9 songs. It's a pretty sleepy movie in terms of plot, but the sex is, er, real.

By: Nathanial Hörnblowér

Nathanial Hörnblowér — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:41:28 -0800

The remake of Lolita is very sexy. Also recommend The Lover which is similar. It's been a long time since I've seen it but I'm fairly certain it's in English.

And yeah, Secretary is great.

By: lottie

lottie — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 15:02:17 -0800

Showgirls... laughing together is very conducive to good times.

By: Kraftmatic Adjustable Cheese

Kraftmatic Adjustable Cheese — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 15:23:13 -0800

Tampopo

By: Pallas Athena

Pallas Athena — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:07:30 -0800

These are all in Spanish, with one exception:
Sex and Lucia
Mediterraneo [Italian]
Taboo-wise, you can't do better than Almodovar:
Tie me Up! Tie me Down!
Kika
Talk To Her

By: mgrichmond

mgrichmond — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:23:02 -0800

The sexual content in Velvet Goldmine is all man-on-man, but when the men are Ewan MacGregor and Jonathan Rhys-Meyers...

By: philad

philad — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:36:43 -0800

Little Children Kate Winslet. Jennifer Connelley. Nuff Said.

By: 8dot3

8dot3 — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:45:29 -0800

It's not in English, but Romance was one of the hottest films I'd ever seen. For your intended purpose, I highly recommend.

By: pinksoftsoap

pinksoftsoap — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:59:50 -0800

Watch Gia. Angelina Jolie as an issue-laden, bisexual model.

By: Houstonian

Houstonian — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 17:30:02 -0800

Henry & June, a movie about Henry Miller, his wife June, and Anais Nin.

And seconding the suggestion for Swimming Pool, which you can watch free here.

By: nzydarkxj

nzydarkxj — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:27:29 -0800

Brokeback Mountain...

By: inconsequentialist

inconsequentialist — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 19:16:14 -0800

Quills

By: You Should See the Other Guy

You Should See the Other Guy — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:01:14 -0800

Damage, perhaps.

I'll also recommend the remake of Lolita. Very well done--smokes the original.

Intimacy, perhaps. But it's not a happy story, it just has real sex in it and great acting.

And I'll vote against Shortbus. Really boring film that thinks it's edgy because of a lot of nudity and "unusual" sex scenarios. If you watch it, bring a good book.

You might also like the tv show, Tell Me You Love Me. I think it's HBO but might be Showtime or something like that.

If you're not against french films, The Hairdresser's Husband is a fantastic romance that is very erotic. By the same director is the phenomenal Girl on a Bridge (which has light BDSM elements and is very erotic) and Monsieur Hire. These three are among the most erotic *good* movies I've ever seen.

By: Pallas Athena

Pallas Athena — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 06:22:43 -0800

Wild at Heart: so very fucked up, but also kind of sweet.

By: hellboundforcheddar

hellboundforcheddar — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 07:54:37 -0800

Belle de Jour

By: SheMulp AKA Plus 1

SheMulp AKA Plus 1 — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 10:23:51 -0800

I highly recommend

"When night is falling"
"High Art" and
"The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love"

I know I have a lesbian theme going on here but these are some of my favorite movies and I think they all fit into what you are looking for.

taboo and slow burning sexual anticipation.

I hope this is helpful.

By: nadawi

nadawi — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 13:55:37 -0800

two girls and a guy.