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Question: What we talk about when we do the nasty.

idiopath — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 19:39:06 -0800

I am interested in phrases used during sex in various languages in dialects.

In particular, I am interested in various idioms of lovemaking, i.e. I have observed North American men and women both tend to say 'Oh Jesus' or 'Oh God' even if they are not Christian, or not religious; they will also say "fuck me", but usually only if being penetrated. I have heard a Mexican say "Ay Papi" and a French woman say "Oui, c'est bon". I know some of these things can be very individual, but I imagine that certain phrases are common enough to make note of.

By: kanemano

kanemano — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:25:24 -0800

iku iku = Japanese

By: fantastico

fantastico — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:25:31 -0800

Japanese:

気持ちいい！(lit. "it feels good") -> "That feels so good!"

行く！(lit. "go") -> "I'm gonna come!"/"I'm coming!"

By: fantastico

fantastico — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:27:23 -0800

Whoops, forgot the romanization: 気持ちいい - kimochi ii / 行く - iku

By: Abiezer

Abiezer — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 22:30:28 -0800

Chinese has 爽 shuǎng, which is "feels nice" but in a James Brown "I Feel Good" rather than wimpy sense.

By: monospace

monospace — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 22:56:23 -0800

In het Nederlands:

Lekker!!

By: idiopath

idiopath — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 23:09:12 -0800

An added request / clarification: it would be great to have a pronunciation, translation (both literal and idiomatic would be best), and whether the term is gendered (is it something you would only say to someone masculine, to someone feminine, someone on top/bottom etc).

Thanks for the great suggestions so far, and the amusing story.

By: dunkadunc

dunkadunc — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 23:16:34 -0800

Lekker!!

In German, that means delicious.

By: troy

troy — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:06:28 -0800

Well, if you're doing it right in Japanese you're hopefully going to hear "駄目!" (pronounced as the Spanish "dame"), which means:

駄目 [だめ] /(adj-na,n) (uk) useless/no good/hopeless/(P)/

However, I'm sure I wasn't the first and won't be the last amorous dude to totally take the utterance the wrongest way possible, since its use in these situations is rather idiomatic. . .

By: nonmerci

nonmerci — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:45:27 -0800

French:

Grave, or "serious". Akin to saying 'harder', if you're being penetrated. Also, nique-moi, which is the equivalent of 'fuck me'.

By: KokuRyu

KokuRyu — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:30:44 -0800

Well, if you're doing it right in Japanese you're hopefully going to hear "駄目!" (pronounced as the Spanish "dame")

It is rather interesting that, if you're doing something right in the bedroom in Japan, your female partner will usually say "dame, dame," or "no, no", or, more precisely "I'm going to come" followed by "iku."

Another somewhat confusing, but sexy, Japanese bedroom is iya, as in "what could you possibly be doing to me down there?" or "why are you removing my panties?"

By: bardic

bardic — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:34:54 -0800

In German, geile would be hot, as in horny.

I live in Korea now so I'm researching the angle here for you.

By: keijo

keijo — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:38:04 -0800

What an interesting question. Ever thought of a field study? Personally, I grunt and sigh a lot, in all my languages. My experience which consist of Finnish and American women don't yield a pattern. I'll keep you posted.

By: luciaisdada

lucia__is__dada — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 03:02:30 -0800

You should read George Steiner's essay:

So in "The Tongues of Eros", another of the books that got away, he writes of having been privileged to make love in four different languages. This unwritten book was to have been a kind of sexual autobiography. It would have explored the relationship between eros and language ("I believe that... the love and lechery of the polyglot differs from that of the monoglot, faithful to one language"). For those of us who've only ever managed to have sex in one language, it may be difficult to suppress a giggle as Steiner recalls one of his lovers, called Ch, crying out the name "Sankt Nepomuk the Lesser" as she reached climax. Another lover employed the euphemism "taking the streetcar to Grinzing" to signify "a gentle, somewhat respectful anal access".

By: creasy boy

creasy boy — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 04:01:03 -0800

It's geil, not geile, in German. Also, it used to mean horny and now it's a slang term just meaning "great". As to whether people actually say that during sex, I have no idea.

By: dabitch

dabitch — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 06:02:03 -0800

I swear to god that we heard my roomate (from Mexico) yelling "Arriba! Arriba!" in her bedroom when her boyfriend was visiting. Me and the other roomies called her Speedy Gonzales ever since.

By: cloeburner

cloeburner — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 06:49:56 -0800

In spanish acabar means to have an orgasm.

Yo acabé - I came.
Tu acabaste - You came.
Voy a acabar - I'm going to cum.
etc.

Coger is to fuck. At least in South America, in Spain it's to hold, to grab.

By: alidarbac

alidarbac — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 06:53:32 -0800

Chinese has 爽 shuǎng, which is "feels nice" but in a James Brown "I Feel Good" rather than wimpy sense.

I guess that's a mainland usage. If you said 好爽 in Taiwan, you'd be laughed out of bed. Here you'll hear people say 舒服 (shūfú) which literally means "comfortable."

Funny story: A Western friend was having relations with a local lass when she erotically moaned in English: "Comfortable!" He was so overcome with the giggles that he almost couldn't continue.

By: bassjump

bassjump — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 08:00:46 -0800

I'm not sure about what Israelis say during the act itself, but the slang for having an orgasm is "ligmor" (leeg-MOR), or "to finish." Gamarti (gah-MAR-tee) = "I came." Fortunately, Hebrew has another word for "to finish" - lesayem - since ligmor has become too colored with this meaning to be comfortably used in other contexts.

(I haven't been there in a long time, so my slang may be about ten years out of date.)

By: Locochona

Locochona — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 08:59:34 -0800

Ay, que rico... ! = Oh, feels so good... !
Ay si, si si si ... ! = Oh yes, yes yes... !
Asi asi ... ! = Just like that, keep doing it just like that.. !

And venirse is literally "to come" ¿Ya te veniste? Did you come (yet)?

But frequently I hear terminar, "to finish" No terminaste?! You didn't come?!

And coger can be just as inappropriate or sexy as "to fuck" can be in English, depending on the circumstances:)

By: birdherder

birdherder — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 09:17:10 -0800

In spanish acabar means to have an orgasm.

Actually acabar means to finish, conclude, etc and often times is used non-sexually. It is a euphemism for coming.

Venir literally means "to come" (mostly in non-sexual terms) and variants are used in the bedroom.

On preview, what Locachona said about terminar and "¡ay qué rico!"

By: lalochezia

lalochezia — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 11:49:14 -0800

Some Lonely Planet phrasebooks have sections dedicated to the subject of sex and what you should say! (Both voluntary and involuntary utterances are covered).

Google books is your friend.....

Spanish
Thai
Japanese
Russian
Indonesian
Brazilian portugese
Greek
German

Searching the other languages in these phrasebooks on google books doesn't find 'sex' or 'love' or have the pages blocked out. Maybe some phrasebook writers are randier than others?

By: cloeburner

cloeburner — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 13:35:03 -0800

I don't know why I'm clarifying this, but I knew acabar means to finish, I just didn't include the more common meaning...

It's a pride thing.

By: idiopath

idiopath — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 13:40:02 -0800

lalochezia: those links are interesting, but they all seem to have more focus on talk before after about the act, rather than the local idioms used during.

By: Bernt Pancreas

Bernt Pancreas — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 16:31:09 -0800

I've heard the Tagalog masarap (delicious) used during the act.

By: pseudostrabismus

pseudostrabismus — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 23:28:28 -0800

A friend told me that in Israel he once jokingly said that a girl might say "ani ba-a" (UH-nee BAA), literally "I come" or "I'm coming". But his friends teased him, because "ani ba-a" literally means "I approach", and refers only to distance (as in, coming when beckoned).
The way they told him to say it was "ani gomer" (UH-nee go-MAR, or, quickly, as "nee' g' mar" ).
If it's being said by a woman, it would be "ani gommeretz" (UH-nee go-MARE-etz).
Meaning "I'm finishing". And to pronounce it properly, you'd roll the R's at the back of your throat similarly as you would in French.

By: emhutchinson

emhutchinson — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 14:42:25 -0800

A boy in Quebec who had climbed through my window said, "Je veus rentres dans le ventre," and that remains among the most erotic words I have ever heard spoken directly to me.

I have asked my French-speaking neighbor to translate, because "ventre" means "stomach" to me, but he says, yes, it is the place in you where he can be. So there.

By: emhutchinson

emhutchinson — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 14:45:37 -0800

Sorry, that would be "veux" and "rentrer" I am more than a little rusty.

By: empath

empath — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 18:34:47 -0800

I had a friend say something similar to me about a girl in english, but it doesn't sound nearly as romantic:

"I want to get up in her guts."

By: maca

maca — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 06:23:52 -0800

in castilian spanish (i.e. from spain),

"follar" = to fuck, have sex.
"correr" = to come

i second "ay, qué rico"

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