Yes, No, Maybe So
January 3, 2009 1:43 PM Subscribe
Boyfriend filter: Making plans with plans with my SO is a pain because he is SO indecisive.
posted by sio42 to human relations (32 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Here is how making plans goes with him and me (or anyone he's attempting to plan with:
Me: Let's go do Thing.
SO: Ok, sounds good.
Me: Great, i'll let Other People know.
SO: Ok. Do you want to do Other Thing instead?
Me: Is that something you want you to do?
SO: Not particularly, I just thought you might.
Me: That's ok. Let's just stick with Thing tonight.
SO: Ok. Well, you know, we could always Another Thing.
Me: Do you not to want to do Thing?
SO: No, no - it's fine. I just wanted to put Another Thing out there.
Me: Ok. I'm going to call Other People now.
Repeat this once I have called Other People and made plans.
He does this with his own friends too.
It drives me up a wall!!!!!!! It seriously takes HOURS to figure out what do with him and then we just end up doing the first thing I/he/other people suggested.
If he started the convo, as in if he had the idea, he does the exact thing. It's not a matter of him deciding first, or who we're doing it with, etc. It's some sort of quirk he has but it makes making plans with him and others VERY frustrating.
Ideas on how to make this less frustrating for me since it's unlikely he'll change? Right now, I started the whole "let's hang out with other couple" about 3 hours ago.
I can't even put my foot down and say "we're doing X" because it doesn't matter. He's still all "hmm, what other options are there?".