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December 30, 2008 6:37 PM Subscribe
I never think about the future. Is this strange? Should I?
posted by sweetkid to health & fitness (23 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I never think about the future. I'm single, and never picture myself in the future, married with kids or anything. I know I want it, but I don't picture it. I have a good job, but I don't think about where I want to be in a year or five years. I can't picture what March might be like. As a consequence, I don't plan for this future at all, aside from savings and retirement plan which I do because I just know I need to. Talking to people, they're like, I need to be here in five years, I want to be married etc. I've had problems with anxiety and indecision, etc, so I almost feel like I'm sure I'll change my mind about what I want for the future, so why think about it. I've always been like this, though, since I was a kid. I had a little bit of an idea of what I wanted to do, but it was more sort of fantastical and I could never put together a plan of action. Whenever I think about an ideal career, I'll follow it for a little bit, and then think about several steps ahead and decide I don't really want it.
Is it normal at all? I know a lot of people talk about living in the "now" and how great that is, and I feel like I am doing that just naturally, but it feels wrong to me somehow. I don't think about the past too much either, although I do think about it, mostly fondly. Just the future....nothing. Is there some way to train myself to do this? I am in therapy, so I have that covered. I just feel like I must lack ambition if I just can't think about where I want to be.