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November 16, 2008 4:10 PM Subscribe
Have you seen my people? They must be in Melbourne somewhere...
posted by xz to society & culture (5 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Oh Mighty Hive-Mind, I throw myself upon your mercy...
I've lived in Melbourne AU for two years now and I have a problem. I can't seem to find my friends.
I'm an outgoing fellow (36, married) with a variety of interests and no problem talking to strangers. I've managed to make a bunch of friends here in town, but I'm still searching for the group of people who make me feel at home.
I've tried hanging out at my local and meeting people there. I've tried starting my own clubs (writing group, rock climbing, film viewing, trivia, the gentleman's daily ration society). I've tried finding good groups to join (not much luck). I volunteer for Popcorn Taxi. These efforts have led me to a place where I have a bunch of people I like, and whom I like to pal about with, but no one (save the wife) whom I feel genuinely close to.
I've moved to new cities before. In some, you find your spot right away. In others, you never do. Melbourne seems like the place where I should be able to find my people, so I'm confused and discouraged. I don't want to blame my lack of success on age, or marriage, or on being foreign (although working from home might be a culprit).
It certainly seems like my type of folks would be in healthy supply in such an interesting town, so MeFi can you help me out? Any ideas on where to trawl for interesting types?
Are you here trying to find people willing to join your crazy scheme? I'll probably say yes.