We need to talk.
October 4, 2004 8:05 PM Subscribe
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Attention all men: I need your expert advice. How do I get my longtime SO to have a conversation about "our relationship" without frightening him and driving him into a clamlike silence?
posted by anastasiav to human relations (64 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
In the course of fixing my longtime (10 years +) live-in boyfriend's computer, I discovered a gigantic (22,000 images plus) cache of porn. This in and of itself is not a problem. What is a problem is the fact that he is clearly embarassed about it, lied to me several times about it, and now refuses to have any sort of conversation about it (or the lies) at all. At all. He just sits there in stony silence until I give up trying. This clearly isn't healthy, but I have no idea what to do about it. He's never been big on the whole "talking about things" anyway .... how do I get him to at least engage in some kind of conversation about this?