Help for young woman woodworker with Nonverbal Learning Disability (NLD, NVLD).
October 31, 2008 9:31 PM 
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How can we assist our adult daughter who has Nonverbal Learning Disorder in finding/creating some sort of outboard executive function so she can pursue her interest in designing and building furniture?
I know that few people are familiar with NLD/NVLD, but I'm looking for anyone who is, who may have insight as to how to help our adult daughter...age 25...(who designs and wishes to build small pieces of fine furniture,) to acquire some sort of outboard executive function so she can actually finish items--she already has located venues who are willing to take her work on a consignment basis . She worked with a mentor who says she has exceptional talent, a real "feel" and "eye" for wood. She has attention to detail but is unable to manage time to organize, and gauge where to put her time and effort in order to actually follow through and finish a product (her therapist says she doesn't live in a temporal world). She's designed a number of pieces, but has only actually finished one item, and built several partial pieces. She tells us that when she is in the process of building an item, she has no idea where to put her effort and how to know when a particular part of the piece requires more or less time and effort. As an example, she created 4 different sets of legs for a small table she was making, sanding several to unusable nubbins because she couldn't gauge when they were suitable finished. She never finished it although she worked on it for months. The piece she has finished was done under the eye of her mentor who directed her in moving from step to step, while she did all of the work.
We appreciate input from people who specifically understand this disorder, as the nature of executive function, and the specific issues involved w/ NLD (sometimes called NVLD). To give you an idea of what she is up against, the Neuropsychologist who diagnosed her and worked in therapy with her for over a year has concluded that while she is well above average intelligence, her neurological functional deficits make her incapable of living on her own or holding a job and he feels she needs to be on SSI; we are in the process of attempting to do this. But she is unwilling to give up the idea of being a productive person and of course we completely support her in this desire. We have put together a woodworking shop for/with her. She's creative and artistic and wants to design and build fine furniture and we would so like to figure out a way to help make this possible for her.
thanks so much for any thoughts you have or direction to resources specifically dealing with adults and/or executive function.
Finally I am so appreciative of input from anyone who has personal or professional knowledge of NLD. However if you do not, just guessing at things that might work will not be helpful as that's what we and she have been doing for a long time. We read and study and research. I am currently in touch with an author on the subject who also has an adult child with the disorder. NLD is a very complex and knotty neurological problem, a relatively new diagnosis. There is very little information available, less for adults with the disorder. There is more for parents of young children with NLD and for educators of children in school but very little for adults who are trying to find a productive place in society.
so...we're looking for any time management/organization/executive function assists, or direction toward other resources. Of course we/she have tried many things that don't work...we just can't give up on the idea that we can find a way for this talented, persevering, hardworking bright young woman to be creative and productive and contribute to her own financial well-being as well as express her talent and creativity in a tangible product.
Thanks so much!
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posted by amethysts at 6:35 AM on November 1, 2008