I think my therapist is hot
October 29, 2008 1:24 PM Subscribe
I think I'm very attracted to my therapist. No, I'm not that kind of person, and that's why this is bothering me a lot.
posted by anonymous to human relations (20 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I am a guy, early-30s, and have been doing therapy with this lady for about a year. We have a one-hour session every week, and I usually arrive 10 minutes before, we end up talking about non-therapy-related stuff before we move on to our actual session. After it we spend some 5 minutes talking about generic stuff as well.
After some eight months in, I caught myself thinking about her more than I should, and not always as a good therapist, which she is. I started noticing the way she dresses, her smile, things she like, and asking more personal stuff, what she likes to do, read, movies to watch, etc. Being a very rational person, I immediately thought "Oh crap, I'm start to like this woman because she understands all my problems and suggests good solutions", which is basically why 99% of this sort of cases occur.
However, after giving a lot of thought to that idea, I realized that my therapy is not related at all to my love life, but to my professional life and how to deal with stress coming from it. I then noticed that the attraction I feel is based on the pre & post-session talks we have, and on the physical side as well. She has her share of qualities I find very interesting, but she's no beauty queen, therefore it's not a case of "oh god I have a superhot therapist".
Long story short: I don't think I'm attracted to the professional therapist, but rather to the woman behind it. Question is: my life has improved significantly since I started working with her, and ideally I wouldn't risk that improvement trying to get into a relationship with her, since the rejection risk is almost 100% (I know no therapist who's ever dated a patient). But I cannot stop thinking about this lady.
How should I deal with the situation? Go and talk to her (therapist), go talk to her (woman) or forget about it in the name of the notable improvement I have noticed in my life in the last 12 months?