I wish I could ask him about this rather than the the internet...
October 27, 2008 5:16 PM Subscribe
I hooked up with an old friend who I had very long standing crush on, I'm pretty confident I'm being rejected, but his behavior during and after is still making my head spin and I would really like to understand his behavior more so that I can move on.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (29 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
So me and X were roommates several years ago. We were very close and there was always A LOT of sexual tension between us, but he was in a very serious (but very dysfunctional) long distance relationship so nothing ever happened between us and we never talked about it. I ended up moving away to go to school and eventually dropped contact with him because I felt I needed to do so to get over him.
Recently, I was back in my hometown and decided to give him a call since we were such good friends and things were different now or so I had thought.
We end up going out and getting fairly wasted. He told me he had broken up with his girlfriend a year ago. One thing leads to another and we end up back at his place. We fooled around but didn't have sex. Things got weird when he didn't want me sleeping in his bed and wanted me to stay in the guest room. He also didn't want to cuddle and kept pushing for sex. After I got angry and nearly called a cab at 4 am he broke down and told me he couldn't handle sleeping in the same bed and cuddling when I was going to be leaving and going back to my new home on the other side of the country. When I brought up how I had always had feelings for him he said he had felt the same way but he didn't want to talk about it since there was no point as "we were in very different places in our lives" and therefore nothing could come of it. He refused to really talk about anything beyond that, he kept saying we could talk in the morning or over email about everything but he couldn't talk then. We left things with him driving me back to the place where I was staying at 8 am.
Afterwards, we sent a couple random texts and I sent him an email basically trying to clear the air to which he never responded. He has sent me a couple of other emails that didn't mention my email and were just short and chit chatty in nature.
In a couple days I am going back to my hometown to visit relatives and I sent him an email letting him know and saying we should hang out, to which he hasn't responded. I know there is nothing I can probably do to change this situation, but I really can't wrap my head around what happened and his bizarre behavior.
To give some background I'm a female in my mid 20s and he's in his early 30s.