How can I get my (future-ex) wife to finalize our separation agreement?
October 25, 2008 11:03 AM Subscribe
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posted by anonymous to Human Relations (7 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My wife and I decided this past summer to divorce. We lived (and she still lives) in New Jersey. At the time, relations between us, while understandably strained, were civil. For several reasons, one of which being financial, we decided to use a divorce mediator instead of duking it out via lawyers. During the mediation sessions, we agreed upon a very equitable and even split of our assets and debts, and the mediator went away to draft the agreement.
Several weeks passed, and relations between she and I deteriorated, largely (from my perspective, anyway) due to her new relationship with another guy who was a mutual friend. We had been splitting time at the house where we had lived together during our marriage (6.5 years), but I decided I couldn't do that anymore, and found an apartment.
About a week ago, we finally got the draft of the separation agreement. I made some corrections and sent it to her for her to do the same, but she doesn't seem to want to deal with it. I've pestered her about it a little, but she ignores my messages completely. She needs to review it and make corrections, we submit it back the the mediator for those changes to be made, then we each have laywers look it over and then it's filed in court as the terms of the divorce. But nothing goes forward while she's sitting on it.
I want to get the divorce over with. It will be easier financially when we're not entangled with our bank accounts and so on, and I just want it past me, as well. I've considered just suing her for divorce, but I don't really want to spend all the money and be that much more acrimonious about it. That's why we chose mediation in the first place.
Is there anything I can do to get her to pay attention to the agreement?