How'd you meet your wife/husband/partner?
October 24, 2008 8:31 PM Subscribe
This is sort of a personal question, so I don't know if anyone will really want to respond or not, but here goes.
I'm at a point in my life where I'm seriously starting to cast about for a real relationship. But as I try and try to find somebody, I'm noticing that most of my ideas about how these things go down play out in my head like sixth-generation bootlegs of hokey '90s romantic comedies. I've never had a real relationship before. I think it would be easier for me to find one for myself if I knew what they looked like at the start.
So my question to you is: How did you fall in love?
posted by AAAA to human relations (45 answers total) 75 users marked this as a favorite
I'm asking for personal stories, so I'll share a little more personal information, in the interest of fairness.
I am a male in my mid-twenties. I am nerdy and sometimes feckless the way young nerdy guys are. But I'm nice enough, I guess. People don't seem to hate or avoid me. Some of them even like my sense of humor. I can't get much deeper into myself than this without leaving the world of fact. All I know is that I am seldom shunned and sometimes appreciated. Therefore, I can only assume that I am an average sort of guy, who could probably be happy with an average sort of girl.
I had a girlfriend, briefly--my first and only. This was recent. I leapt into the relationship about as fast as I possibly could, seeing a rare chance, only to discover shortly afterward that I really needed to get myself out. I think we were both just way too enthusiastic at the prospect of having found someone else. The whole thing was sweet while it lasted, but it's a little embarrassing to think about now.
And so now my head's all straightened out again (I tend to take my time recovering from emotional strangeness) and I'm once more surrounded by attractive, available women my age. Some of whom seem to like me. And yet... I can't seem to picture, with any of them, the path between point A (boy meets girl) and point B (boy and girl discover a mutual love of reading in bed/crisp apples/each other).
So how'd it go for you and your husband/wife/long-term partner of either gender? What did that path look like? How did you locate the trailhead?