Help me interpret a girl's signals when she was drunk. I'm not even sure if they were signals.
October 18, 2008 2:15 PM Subscribe
I am an idiot and I fail miserably at this dating/relationship stuff. Help me make sense of a girl's behavior when she was drunk...
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (46 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Last Tuesday, me and 3 of my friends (everyone around 21-22 years old) got together for a few drinks, along with a friend of my friend; let's call her X (3 guys, 2 girls). I had known her for a very short time only, having met a total of 2 times before when I was with one of the aforementioned friends. And while I'm not someone who opens up to new people easily, I'm always joking around and having a lot of fun when I'm around my friends. I've been called the life of my group a lot of times before, and it's not sarcasm as far as I can tell. That atleast gives the newly-met people an impression that I'm a fun guy to be around. And when I'm drunk, I'm a lot more fun. A lot of it is down to me fooling around making fun of myself, and the rest of it is because I'm generally more alert and come up with the bulk of the funny moments. Suffice to say that I'm generally the one who makes the rest of the people laugh, especially when we're drinking.
So yeah, we were all drunk, and during this time, I could feel that X was pretty attracted to me. There was an incredible amount of touching, her sticking around me all the time, coming with me when I was going out to buy more booze (only the two of us wanted to drink more, the rest wanted to just stick where they were), and a lot of hand-holding during the journey to-and-fro from the booze shop, and the coffee shop (later). Awesome vibing between the two of us, if you will... Since she was pretty hammered by the end, she wanted to have a coffee. And since it was late, the rest of my friends had to go home. So I took her to a coffee shop. The vibe was still there even after she was pretty sober. Then I dropped her home. She later called to apologise for giving me the trouble of taking her to the coffee shop (?? wtf?)
I was with my friends the next day when she dropped by to meet us. Again, I could feel some attraction, but dialed down because she was sober. She again apologised for giving me trouble and told me that she didn't remember most of what happened... We talked around for an hour before splitting up and heading home. Haven't seen her since, but that's probably because my friend hasn't invited her again during the last couple of days. Atleast that's what I think.
She has been in a relationship for quite a few years now, and I've always been someone who isn't too eager to rock the boat when it comes to such things. I have her number, from when she called me to apologise. I don't know if I should pursue her, or just keep her as a friend. Yes, I am attracted to her, which makes me feel that I might be taking everything a little too seriously and seeing attraction when/where there is none. But when I met my friends the next day, they also had the opinion that she liked me. But her apologising twice, and then telling me that she didn't remember most of what happened gives me doubts. Plus, the fact that I've never been in any relationship before, so I don't know how all this works. If I make a move and she's not really attracted to me, I'll probably make a fool of myself (as usual), not that there's anything wrong with that. But I don't want to lose something that could turn into a nice friendship.
Any suggestions for a next move? I'm completely open to either option (pursuing or not), and would appreciate your answers. Thanks! Also, apologies for such a long post.
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