How to prepare to live together again after 3 months apart?
October 8, 2008 1:08 PM Subscribe
What should I do in advance to prepare for the end of a short long-distance relationship stint? She's spending 3 months away, and I want the transition back to go as smoothly as possible.
posted by marginaliana to human relations (10 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My partner will be taking a research trip abroad in the spring and spending 3 months away. I am excited that she's got the opportunity and very supportive of the decision to go. I'm not worried about the time apart (well, okay, I am, but I've read through a bunch of LDR posts here and I have lots of good friends around and projects to keep me busy and letters to write her and so on), but I'm a little worried about how to best reestablish our lives together when she gets back.
We have lived together for over 4 years and been together over 7. We own a home, but have no pets or children. We are both female, if that matters. I will be going over to visit briefly towards the end of her stay, but the rest of the time she will be living alone (in a student-housing type situation). We did long distance for a similarly brief time at the beginning of the relationship, but not having lived together first.
Things I've already thought of:
--I want to try to keep to our existing regular evening schedule as much as possible, with the addition of the daily phone call
--I should remember to dust regularly and I plan to do a thorough house clean the day before she comes back
--I should not get into the habit of going to the bathroom with the door open. :)
What else should I be doing now and while she's gone to help us with the return transition, both emotionally and practically?