September 28, 2008 3:55 PM Subscribe
I was diagnosed with general anxiety three weeks ago. My first paper was due for college two days ago; I haven't started writing it. What are the best possible actions to take in this situation?
posted by Alligator to human relations (49 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
So. I had this paper--a quarter of my grade--due on Friday. Haven't started writing it. It's not even that long, and the topic isn't that hard. I feel pressure for it to be really good since it is already late, but something would probably be better than nothing. The best I can make on this, now, is a C (letter dropped for each day late).
I feel really, really bad about it. This is the one class I've felt really good in this semester; I've kept up with the readings, maintained a good relationship with the professor, spoken up in class. My best friend died last year, and my mom had cancer, and my parents divorced, so I haven't really had any classes that I've felt good about or professors I could count on for recommendations. It was so nice to have never even cried in front of this professor. I can't help but feel that it sucks that that's even a big deal.
So, now I don't know what to do. I could probably finish this paper tonight and get it in by midnight if I just force myself through my head and get it turned in. And I guess I can do that because I have to. I feel really lame. I don't even have a good reason for this. Every time I've tried to start writing I've just had so many other things to think about. Myself. The people on Thursday who I finally told about my diagnosis. My close friend having psychotic episodes yesterday and being helpless to do anything about it and just seeing how easily that could have been me. I know other people can and do just work through the stress, and I'm mad at myself that I'm not, but I'm also mad that I have to.
Anyway, with that long explanation, what is the best way to deal with this? Do I just turn in my paper late with no explanation to my professor? Do I apologize? Do I mention this diagnosis, or does that mean I ruin all chances for a recommendation from him for anything? Do I just seem like I'm looking for pity? I mean, to be honest, I'd like some. Or at least just some patience and understanding that doesn't totally destroy me in the eyes of who I'm hoping could give that. Would the fair, proper thing be to just turn it in and don't say anything? Gah... what do I do?