How to not get TOO excited about a new relationship?
September 5, 2008 11:41 AM Subscribe
Starting a new relationship from different places - how do I keep myself in check?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
About six months ago, my long-term boyfriend (4+ yrs) and I ended our relationship. It had been a long time coming, and was very painful for awhile, but I feel like I'm in a much better place now in terms of our breakup and feel kind of zen about the fact that things just wouldn't have worked. I've met someone else (via a personal ad) and we have started emailing...it seems like we really, really click. After being in a relationship that just didn't click for YEARS, I am absolutely thrilled to meet someone who shares my sense of humor, is genuinely intelligent, etc. I'm so excited, in fact, that I'm afraid I am going to scare this person off. I can't quit checking my email to see if I've heard from him, fretting about meeting up with him, thinking about what might happen between us, etc. He, of course, isn't in the same emotional situation, and though it seems like the feelings we have for each other are mutual, I can acknowledge that we may not be coming from the same place, and I feel needy and anxious.