How do I let a guy know I want to sleep with him?
August 25, 2008 7:27 PM Subscribe
Is it a good idea to get back in touch with someone I dated briefly and ask for sex? If so, how should I do it?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (32 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm female, late 20s and very inexperienced sexually.
I briefly dated a guy recently (i.e. about 6 dates over a period of 2 months. I was out of town a lot.). No sex, just passionate kissing and feeling up. He asked if I wanted to come over on a few of our dates, but I declined because I wasn't comfortable enough with him yet, though he continued to ask me out. Then, about a month ago, he failed to reply to a text I sent asking him to get together. He never got back to me. He was always a bit dodgy with communication, so I'm not sure it was meant as a brush off. Who knows, maybe he's wondering why I haven't called him.
I don't know if he was too busy, or if he bailed coz he thought I might not get sexual with him any time soon, or what. Bottom line: I've been working through a lot of my fears around sexuality, and I am ready to get sexual with him now. I don't care if he doesn't want a relationship, I just want a sexual experience with a nice guy. Despite him not getting back to me, he always treated me well in person.
I'm just struggling with how to let him know that I am up for getting sexual with him. I'm a classy broad and the phrase "Wanna fuck?" is not found in my lexicon (at least not yet). Any suggestions on what to say when I call him?