How to get the Christian girl?
August 24, 2008 7:10 PM Subscribe
What do I do about crushing hard on a girl who is my spiritual opposite and my emotional match?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (42 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I work with a woman who I am beginning to crush hard on (and yes I understand relationships at work are a whole other can of worms). Not to recently I became single and she has been single the whole time I have known her and thus now we seem to be speaking more at work. We talk about all range of things and everything we say seems to just click and work together. Speaking to her seems so natural and there is a chemistry present between the two of us (others have commented on it so not just me imagining I don't believe). The topics of talk have moved more towards relationships, questions between the two of us more just feeling out each others opinions on the matter. To sum up it all feels right.
The issue stems from the fact that I am an atheist and she is fairly devout and adamant christian. It is the center focus of her life (outside of her daughter) and it means the world to her. We have talked about my beliefs and about hers and she has made it known she could not date anyone who was not a christian while of course I don't care what religion or belief system you are so long as you are happy and it makes your life better. She has asked what seem to be feeler questions about how open I am to church and Christianity in general, which is not very. I am happy in my beliefs and do not want to change that part of my life and I would never ask her to change her beliefs (in many ways her devoutness intrigues me and endears her more to me).
So my question is this really, sorry to ramble, what do I do? Pursue this? Give up? How do I handle the difference in spiritual beliefs? It is not like I am a moral deviant or a bad person, I just have formed my own beliefs. I am a good guy and if there is any chance at all it would be worth it with her I am sure.